I have been blessed, I think, with the great capacity to sleep.
Sometimes it’s a curse, actually. Like those weekends (ha, back in the day when I had weekends actually off) when I actually needed to get up early to study and ended up majorly sleeping in — even when I’d gone to bed at a decent hour the night before. Or when I fall asleep on the couch (or honestly, many times, in bed), way too early for bed, wake up and drag myself into bed, and then sleep ’till the next morning…
I give myself the excuse that I’m chronically sleep-deprived — and I am — but I’m pretty sure that I can’t really be making up for sleep I lost a year ago. It’s like a ceramic pot you dash on the floor and try to put back together again — never quite what it once was. I’m pretty sure that whatever damage I’ve done to my brain & body over the last few years will never be really, truly, undone.
In honesty, though, I know most people struggle with the transition to and from night float. I’m lucky — I never had a problem. I’d just play video games until the sun came up, or worked on mixing, or a video, or website code — and then fall (and stay) asleep with minimal issue. Sometimes, I’d even go to sleep with Greg at around 1am, and then maybe wake up at around 2pm and take a nap again at around 4-5pm. When I transitioned back, I’d just sleep for most of the day and then go to bed again at around 11pm-1am (sometimes even earlier!) It wasn’t until this last time around when I was transitioning back that I found myself completely unable to sleep at night and so tired during the day I’d have to take a nap at lunch. (It may or may not have been my fault, caused by playing a lot of video games and going to bed at around 4am when I had to work at 8am…)
It went on like this for more than a week until I had a 28 hour call and managed to reset myself — last week, I slept blissfully… as I did last night, sleeping from 2:30am until 4pm (getting up to pee at around noon, but otherwise undisturbed).
As I was washing my hair today before work, singing happily away to whatever Pandora was streaming at the moment — I felt so whole. Yeah, sometimes it’s a curse, but today, I feel thoroughly blessed & grateful for my ability to sleep.
Okay, so I’ll admit it, everything’s that’s been sitting on my harddrive/in my head, wanting to be posted — is finally getting posted. \o/
This was written in late 2013, but sat for ages because I was so unhappy with my mixing and the way it was sounding. I re-recorded it a second time in 2014; still nothing. Finally, I came back to it again this year — this time, I realized that part of the reason why the sound was so “off” is because of how I was singing it. I kind of find that my voice is generally evocative and full — but this song required an airy, almost lazy tone to match Foxes’ vocals more closely. That, combined with autotune (which I’ve never used before), finally made the vocals have that almost-whiny, robotic quality to them that the song desperately needed.
League of Legends/Zedd feat. Foxes parody
High dive in with Sweeping Blades and a Jax who’ll never die
I thought we might have a chance, but you make me wanna cry
Try hard just to CS creeps ’cause we both know how this ends
Can’t run from the ignite tick and you start to feed again
‘Cause I am your ADC, you need to peel for me
Chasing despite my pings, get caught and we both just die
If our lane is 0 and 3, why did you build Malady?
And our lane’s a travesty, why did you take Clarity?
If our lane is 0 and 3, why prolong the agony?
And our lane… (*facepalm*) /ff gg, why did you take Clarity?
Keep trying to make some plays, but it all comes at a cost
No wards at the Baron pit, time to give it up for lost
Jax clears out the creep wave top and we all try to push mid
Can’t burst through the exhaust pop and their Jinx escapes again
‘Cause I am the ADC, you need to bring the CC
Chasing relentlessly, ignite, but she never dies
If our lane is 0 and 3, why did you build Malady?
And our lane’s a travesty, why did you take Clarity?
I am having SO MUCH FUN in League of Legends! Long live URF, the best game mode ever! I was so sad when URF went away last year — it was easily the most fun I’ve ever had in League, plus an awesome chance to throw out & practice landing those skillshots without feeling like I was putting myself in a bad position for later while doing so. It’s back again this year for April Fools’, and how happy I am to have a (kinda) golden weekend to play to my hearts’ content! I don’t usually buy summoner icons, but I splurged on the heartsplosion one because really, who can resist the extra kasplammy?! In any game mode, it’s always so satisfying to land a Q-ult, but the heartsplosion makes it all the more fun! AHHHH <3 <3 <3
or, How Someone With Absolutely No Experience Somehow Managed to Engineer Her Dream Cosplay: Seramyu Eternal Sailormoon
It took me three years and a sum of money I try not to think too much about, using bravery gleaned from hundreds of hours of research, reading and re-reading Cosplay.com threads, DeviantArt tutorials, and the sewing skills I’d gained from my surgery clerkship (yes, I used subcuticular stitches for much of the hidden hand stitching, and a curved needle with suturing tools to sew the top skirt on!), but the results were oh-so-worth it.
When I was in high school many, many, moons ago, I stumbled upon Seramyu — the ridiculous, campy, musical version of Sailormoon. My first thought was “… this is ridiculous and gaudy and looks awful.” (See also, Anza’s wig from the first musical, and her shoes that were partially orange-red with metallic pink shoe covers.)
But then as I fell in love with the music, with La Soldier and La Moon and Knockin’ Down Hestitation, I bounced my way around to falling in love with the costumes. (In fact, I love them so much that I found the PGSM live-action costumes lackluster. And the new Seramyu costumes? They’re lovely and all, but they just aren’t the same — to the point where I’d almost say I hate them. And don’t even get me started on the music.)
When I discovered that cosplay was a thing, I became possessed with the desire to wear that costume myself — oh, Eternal Sailormoon! The wings! The colors! The utter beauty! The serenity, the passion, the utter pureness of Usagi’s love, all belted out in ridiculous musical numbers and wonderful songs that celebrate the end-of-musical ai araba (if there is love) IT’S ALL RIGHT feels. Bounce with me!~
I remember standing in the fabric section of Walmart, gazing longingly at the tissue paper lamé in gold, pink, and blue, and imagining what it would be like if I was ever allowed to even try…
And so it was that I found myself standing in the fabric section of JoAnn’s in the spring of my fourth year of medical school, looking at that same tissue paper lamé and realizing that it was too gaudy and cheap and thin to ever work. I’d spent months and months working up the courage to go all-out by reading this Cosplay.com thread; I was by no means a teenager anymore, and months away from becoming a professional (and my philosophy became something akin to “if I’m going to go out in public looking ridiculous, I’m going to look damn good while doing so.”) A trip to LA’s fabric district was totally out of the question as my husband hates downtown LA… but then he surprised me by finding this discount fabric place in Anaheim (M&L fabrics) that we could go to instead.
Based on bunches of research, I finally figured out that Eternal Sailormoon skirts are made of tricot lamé — a thicker but still papery sort of material that was white on the underside. I found it at M&L, but I didn’t like how it was white on the underside, which meant possibly needing way more material. I went for metallic spandex instead — 3 yards each of pink and blue. They didn’t have gold — I ended up buying that online at SpandexWorld. I also picked up the metallic confetti dot fabric that I needed — blue for the underside of the collar, and pink for the glove bands. I think this came out to over $60 — the first big purchase and no-turning-back-now point. Truly, I didn’t end up really needing all 3 yards, but it was a darned good thing bought that much, because I ended up making the collar about 3-4 times over (and I’m still probably going to remake again at some point)…
Based on tutorials I found online, I made 2x tiered circle skirts (with the blue skirt being the longest). Then I put 1″ horsehair braid in the hems to fluff out the skirt to give it that ridiculous body that all Seramyu skirts should have. I won’t lie — cried, swore, and tore my hair out a lot while doing this. My machine messed up many a time because of the thickness of the layers of spandex and the horsehair braid and I had to unpick so many seams, too. I have since learned that if your horsehair braid doesn’t come with the loops that you can pull up to curve it… you’re supposed to sew in a stitch that you can pull to gather it in the shape of the hem. You can see where there’s puckering in the spandex because I didn’t know that; my hems look awful. My subsequent experiences with horsehair braid have been much less violent. Also, in retrospect — I should have made the inner circumference longer to allow for more pleating, and I would not have made the skirts tiered but all the same length because of all the extra circumference it meant.
For the leotard, I spent ages trying to wrap my head around the oft-used Green Pepper Crystal Lake Skating Outfit. I do not understand patterns. I still do not understand patterns. I hate patterns. Seramyu leotards aren’t meant to be stretchy, but at this point in my sewing, I didn’t trust myself to make anything fitted (and still don’t, to be honest). I used white matte spandex from JoAnn’s, and lengthened the back seam so that I could add an invisible zipper in the back since Seramyu costumes zip up in the back. (The downside to having used spandex for the leotard is that it makes it difficult/near impossible to make the gold trim strips on the leotard work; I still haven’t done that because I don’t exactly relish the idea of pinning trim through my skin. :P)
The pink puffed sleeves were somehow drafted using this tutorial, mocked up in some cotton I had lying around, and then made in the beautiful metallic pink spandex. The bottom is ruffled and attached to another ruffle attached to a casing in which there is elastic. The sleeve was unfortunately not quite stretchy enough, though.
The belt was made from 1″ upholstery cord cut at an angle to make a perfect V-shape. I pushed a single bent wire into each side to make the V hold together, then taped the ends to make it a nice sharp. This version of the belt had the ends left out, because I was initially planning to sew the skirt to the belts. I did the hand stitching to make the V-ends meet together with a subcuticular stitch. ;)
And then, just like that, I had somehow made it this far. The pulling at the skirts from the horsehair braid being stretched too much over the spandex irritated me immensely (and still does, to this day) but I was so freaking proud, you have no idea. By this time in the project, I was days away from graduating from medical school. \o/
Then I started on the collars, after drafting many a pattern that I wasn’t happy with. I used Lynleigh’s pattern initially and tried to modify it to work, but I was either inept with following the pattern or it just didn’t look right. This version was way way way way too curved. I don’t know what I was thinking. Seramyu shoulders stand up and are pretty darn stiff, so the shoulders were made by cutting out a layer of the thickest interfacing I could find at JoAnn’s (really, it’s pretty much cardboard) and fusing that to a layer of blue spandex to which the blue metallic confetti dot had been sewn, sewing another layer of blue spandex on the other side, and then flipping the pocket around neatly.
Also, at this point, I hadn’t found the right trim yet (actually that’s a lie; I found the gold on cosplaysupplies.com, but it was too costly and the gold they have there is too yellow, as you’ll see later on) so this was the best alternative I could find — gold soustache braid… which frayed horribly and also made me scream at the machine to no end (which as you might imagine, by this point, was very much a recurring theme ;)
The collars stood up waaaaaaayyyy too much, but… oh well. Also, by this time I realized that the V-neck that I’d cut into the leotard was wayyyyyy too shallow, but I was too scared (and crunched for time) to change it. Next up was a huge wing/bow shape — drafted by hand initially on scrap fabric, then transferred to interfaced prismatic spandex and gathered. I made glove rolls by taking sandwiches of fabric, turning inside out, then sewing the three channels in place and stuffing. I did the gold wings on the gloves with heavy interfacing fused to gold spandex and cut out. It looked wonky, awful, but… at least it was done. At this point, all the fabric things were essentially done.
I also spent a lot of time feeling frustrated at my lack of ability with clay. I failed really hard at making things symmetric… I was so frustrated, I actually ended up cutting my earrings and choker out of interfacing and gold spandex.
Next came the wings– another surprisingly fun project. I like a different shape of wings than is typical — some of Marina’s very first promo photos had this very feathery, wispy, defined wing shape as opposed to the typical board-like wings. Of course, I also had to keep in mind fitting through doors and walking about in convention halls, so these wings pivot and can bend in half, and they’re also smaller than they’re supposed to be. The wings are also supposed to zip up with the outfit and not be separate, but I didn’t trust my leotard structure to hold up to the wings, so wire it was! Wire “skeleton”/structure was made of the stiffest wire I could bend comfortably; felt strips hotglued around the edges, and then more felt on either side to give the base onto which I glued individual feathers one by one, and then feather boas. The back was made with the same holographic spandex and more feathers and feather boas. There’s a wire loop down the middle that I slip into the corset bra (repurposed from my wedding mwahahaha) I wear underneath to hold the wings and I tie a ribbon through the loop and around my waist underneath the skirts for extra security. The back bow is made of heavily interfaced holographic spandex and interfaced metallic pink spandex for the ribbon tail, attached to the bottom of the wings. It still flops around a bit too much for my liking, but…
AHHHHHHH SO FLUFFFYYYYYY <3 <3 <3 You can’t see the holographic spandex part on the front very easily, but it’s there. I think making the wings was easily one of my favorite parts of making this costume.
During this whole time, there had also been several months of alchemy during which our kitchen was entirely out of commission. We didn’t cook (not that we did much before, but…) Following tons of research and watching YouTube videos of people make Sailormoon wigs, I purchased an Arda Chibi with a long ponytail clip in Platinum Blonde — at this point, they didn’t have the crazy bright yellow that was key to the Seramyu look, so I researched dyeing methods and eventually settled on trying to do the Rit Dye method. I used bottles and bottles and bottles of dye, to no avail; it ended up more of a buttery yellow than the bright yellow I’d hoped for. Then there was straightening it all out again as it had turned into a royal tangled mess. I was about to scour the town for Sharpies, but never ended up having the time.
I used this tutorial for guidance in making my wig, 2am the morning before the con I was going to… even despite the stress and craziness, I learned that I enjoyed working with wigs, and these days it’s really, truly easier than ever! Having the Arda Chibi was really lovely and cut out so much time/effort/stress; in high school and beyond I read of crazy sorcery that was required to make an odango-styled wig — things like extra wefts passed under the wig cap and heat sealed, a cap sewn in underneath to make it more tolerable to wear, hot water curling because back in those days wigs/fiber weren’t heat resistant. I honestly doubt that I’d have been brave enough to try that right off the bat without any experience with wigs before.
I didn’t finish in time everything in time before the con, though. I collapsed into bed instead. But throughout the rest of my summer before starting residency, somehow, I put together something that looked somewhat like what I’d dreamed of all those years ago.
And then I took a huge break on it for months, because residency. If I ever thought I didn’t have time before… did I ever learn the meaning of “no time to myself”, courtesy of 80-hour work weeks…
In digging through the depths of the Internet, I discovered that the so-called “Myu-accurate” trim is something called pineapple-pleat lamé. I researched it thoroughly, went on excavation missions to find it, you name it, I tried it. So I’d resigned myself to going without it initially. But by this point, I finally caved and decided to trim the skirts — partially to camouflage the horrible hems, and partially because what’s a Myu costume without going all-out on ridiculous glittery bling-bling? I have no idea if the trim I bought in the end is actually pineapple-pleat lamé — most pictures I’ve seen of cosplayers saying they used pineapple-pleat lamé don’t seem to be similar to what I ended up with, but the more recent hi-res pictures I’ve seen of Seramyu costumes seem quite convincingly similar to this, and the trim is imported from Japan so somebody must be using it for Myu-accurate costumes, somewhere. Alas, the gold I had to buy is rather yellow-gold, rather than its cooler cousin which is more accurate (cosplaysupplies.com didn’t have it.) It bothered me immensely that the pink and blue tiers of spandex matched exactly the trim color whereas the gold didn’t… yeah, I’m kind of a perfectionist. The trim ended up being a Christmas gift from my husband, who, while watching me twirl around under the lights at Anime Expo 2013, declared that it had all been worth it after all. :D
The trim was sewn on in the mornings after night float, and a couple of times I brought the ridiculous box with me to work and on quieter nights with few kiddos that needed to be admitted, I was able to just sew away on it bit by bit, because it was a lot of trim! Three rows each, and that blue skirt which is so much longer around the hem than any others was particularly time consuming.
I also remade the collar for a second time, this time with the trim, and it looked much better. My initial collar was so stiff that it had to be buttoned down; this time, I used two layers of a thinner interfacing which was perfect. Still wasn’t happy with the shape at this point though…
Then time for all the other accessories that had been missing! The feather hairpins were wired to a clear headband — still not clear enough though, it’s actually a very light green. I also remade the compact — a heart gem purchased off Etsy, laid on a bunch of beads I made from super lightweight Sculpey, painted in pearl acrylics, and then threaded on wires which crisscrossed in the back to make a “bed” for the gem. Then I cut out a clay heart shape slightly bigger than the heart gem, baked it all, hot glued the gem and pearl beads threaded onto string onto it, and plopped it in the middle of the wire cage.
The bootcovers were made of pink metallic spandex fused to interfacing and all hot glued in place, with a moon of gold spandex fused to interfacing. I broke a needle trying to sew the top line… They slipped into my boots to give that V-shape without me having to cut the boots. (The image of the full boots was taken at the con by JediDarkKnight on Flickr!)
Photo credit: Top two photos by JediDarkKnight@Flickr; bottom right was taken by my husband, bottom left is a photo I’d been sent with no source.
My very first con, Anime Expo 2013. <3 I was missing the moon on the belt, my collar still drove me nuts, the chest wings/bow was still not heavily interfaced enough, and my earrings and jewelry were all interfaced gold spandex… but there was such an amazing sense of accomplishment being mobbed at AX for photos! To be able to stand there wearing something that I’d somehow crafted with the behemoth of the Internet behind me — I think this is proof of how amazing putting technology out there in the hands of people who use it to communicate what they’ve learned with others is huge (and really, the whole reason I’m writing this long long long post)!
There were still things that needed to be changed/fixed:
The edges of the skirt being visible really bothered me. I re-gathered and re-pinned this about fifty billion times, cursing how I hadn’t allowed enough additional circumference around the waist for pleats fifty thousand times (at least). I remade the belts much more cleanly this time, and made clay the moon on the belt, which was then sprayed with gold spray paint and decorated with acrylic gems.
What a difference a little experience makes — I had new ideas for making things better! I remade the wings on the glove bands to have more dimension — used less stiff interfacing, and cording in the roll. I also finally made a bunch of things in clay, and finally had a very lucky find at Michaels one day — gold star gems that fit perfectly. I made a tiny moon of clay, covered it in iridescent glitter, and stuck it to the heart compact. By the way, if you’re ever working with tiny tiny gems like I was here, don’t skimp on the $3 wax sticks meant for working with small gems… I regretted it when I couldn’t get things placed right without them… I made mistakes with gems sliding with superglue attached to the back, which made the surface of my beautiful heart gem frosted… had to fix it with some modpodge to bring back some of the shine, but it would be better to not have to cover up the mistake. ;)
Sailormoon stands up for and selflessly gives of herself to help others, despite the cost. She holds onto hope even when things seem bleak. She believes that everyone has kindness within. She trusts in the power of her love to dispel anger and hatred, choosing instead to purify and heal.
I started crafting this costume in my final year of medical school because of my love for Sailormoon. But beyond cosplay – with patients and families, no matter how difficult, she reminds me to seek the kindness in others, to never lose hope, and to keep fighting for those who cannot.
Improvements I still wanna make:
I’d initially been given the understanding that the collar was a single piece and my head kept breaking how it was flat at the neck and then flared out… I have since studied a high res Seramyu poster and discovered it’s actually two pieces. ANOTHER COLLARRRRRRRRR–
The wings need to be braced better, so they aren’t constantly folding backwards.
The top layer of trim is still not fully tacked down in all the places it needs to be… more night float sewing goodness, perhaps!
I wanna make the bangs better — more anime-style so the wig can be used for multiple Usagi/Sailormoon cosplays (which yes, I am planning for mwahaha!)
Better sleeves — these ones get flat sometimes! They need to be interfaced too; I probably will be extolling the virtues of interfacing to my grave as I use it for almost anything and everything in order to make things do what I want them to!
Improve that stupid V-neck in the front — I still think it’s too high, and when I pose/move about it shifts too high.
Get brave enough to trim the leotard with gold trim the way it’s supposed to be!
Probably a billion of other things that make it so I’ll make a whole new costume by the end of all of this. HAHAHA \o/
Finally — if you made it through this far, thank you! I wrote this all out because I believe that cosplay is a hobby that depends heavily on people sharing their experiences. I was once someone who thought they couldn’t do something like this, especially for my first cosplay (I was encouraged to start smaller, but I couldn’t because I was expecting this to be the only costume I ever made… boy, was I ever wrong! ;) Reading about how other people made their costumes, whether it was a Myu costume or something else entirely, really helped me be confident enough to try it or adapt it to make it work. If I can help someone else achieve their dreams with my experience — well, then, that’d be the icing on my glittery floofy ridiculous Seramyu cake! <3
the strange kinds of thoughts you have at 11am when driving home from a long night (mostly because your hospital’s EMR was down for the few hours when you had the time to write notes) — me, I’m a storyteller. I’ve always been. I realized a long while back that telling stories was part of what makes me feel alive — what ultimately drives everything I enjoy doing. I want to reach out, touch your heart, help you feel and live (not that I’m always the greatest at that myself, oh no). but. to create, to breathe life, to make it all come alive. music, the piano, eighty-eight keys black and white but a million evocative colors in your mind. peace, longing, loss, pain, joy, dancing, butterflies, sunlight; I’ve lived & played it all. singing: the stories of others with my own intertwined, sung. a prayer carried on all the heart & soul I could muster. I always thought in lyrics. voice acting; bringing someone to life, telling their stories & conveying a character with pitch and inflection. countless hours roleplaying with friends on the MUD; blind nymph-girl Aoi and her great love for her friend, the most feared thief throughout the land of Sindara. large insectoid Jeti and her love for food and eating and sharing her childlike pleasures & joy with you. High Summoner Yuna, the Evening Calm (and sometimes, the Violet of Doom), and her spiral into icy madness. it all extends even to my more recent madness — cosplay. fabric, clay, worbla, paint, trips to the hardware store for progressively stranger things, and a hundred thousand hours of sweat, blood, tears, and screaming at my sewing machine, all to bring characters & stories to life in yet another way.
the strange thought, though, was — as sometimes I feel that my job is so woefully unrelated and different and alien and takes away from my time to tell stories & sing songs — it’s not so unrelated after all. as a physician, my job is also to be a storykeeper. an archiver. not that I’m not or wasn’t already. I’ve done it, always; journaling through the good and the bad because my own memory sometimes loses the details for the emotions. but I listen to stories all day long. sometimes they’re short, sometimes they’re long, sometimes they don’t make sense, sometimes they’re made up for one reason or another. but I listen, I accept, I chronicle. I hear. in bits & binary, I make sense of the story, to be written down and passed on only to those who will also care for the patient. as maddening as it can be, opening the doors to my hospital’s ancient cobwebbed previous EMR and searching through musty tomes of scribbled and barely legible writing to figure out the story that needs to be told — I love doing this. I love listening. your stories. my patients’ stories. I want you to feel heard and cherished and like you aren’t alone. the moments that bring my heart to fullness are those when I feel like I’ve made a difference. a mother thanking me through tears for listening to her anxieties and fears, respecting what she had to bring to the table, working with her to come up with the best plan for her child, not washing my hands of her or treating her as if she was difficult.
I suppose that at the end of the day, it’s all just two halves of the same coin. I guess that more than just being Sailormoon, guardian of love & justice, I’m Fairy Doctorgirl Prissi, guardian of stories.
Sooo… after over twelve years of wishing and three years of active plotting, sewing, and dreaming (sometimes I’d go to sleep trying to unravel how best to do one thing or another)… my Seramyu Eternal Sailormoon is finally, finally complete! I think I’ve made at least two of everything by now and have enough discarded & reformulated parts to make another, hahahaha. I have always loved the musicals — and its campy, floofy, gloriously glittery costumes. It doesn’t get any brighter or more colorful than Eternal Sailormoon! <3 My favorite thing about this costume is the layers of metallic braid imported from Japan (at a dear price), which my husband lovingly purchased for me as a Christmas gift. Watching me twirl around, my skirt catching the light, he said, “Oh, it was so worth it.” It really was. ♥
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tonight imagine me gown and all, fetchingly draped against the wall
a picture of sophisticated grace
I suddenly see him standing there, a beautiful stranger, tall and fair
I wanna stuff some chocolate in my face
Something I never quite expected was to have the character of Anna resonate quite so much with me. Growing up, I loved Jasmine most, probably because she was the only of the Disney Princesses who actually looked anything like me, never mind that I’m not in the least bit Arabic. I shared something with each of the other princesses I grew up with, though: Ariel’s fiery free spirit and determination, Belle’s love for reading and understanding of others, Mulan’s… Chinese… dress… (why couldn’t a Chinese dress be beautiful and meaningful and flowy like kimono or hanbok? Wait, the cheongsam is actually Manchurian? the hanfu is really the actual traditional Chinese dress?) … okay fine, Mulan’s sense of honor and duty to her family. In my adulthood (hahahaha), Ariel has definitely become my favorite of the classic Disney princesses, with Rapunzel from Tangled my favorite of the newer Disney princesses. I think it’s something about the ingenue wide-eyed spunk with which they drink in the world.
And then Frozen came out, and here comes Elsa with the big showstopping coming-of-age power ballad in which she transforms from a shy, cloistered princess into the strong and beautiful ice queen. That dress-into-ice transformation? Helllooooo mahou shoujo. I came out of the movie theatre scheming about how to construct that dress and my husband took one look at the glint in my eyes and said, “Noooooo Prissi nooooooo.” One at a time, he says, finish one at a time. Nevermind that I am not in the least fair and that titanium blonde hair would never look good on me.
But Anna? The awkward ganglyness, the wide-eyed honesty, the way words sometimes come out before she thinks, the way she wakes up in the morning, the way she fancies herself as someone more graceful than she really is, the utter randomness that is the way she bounces from thought to thought (from the man of her dreams to wanting to stuff chocolate in her face!) — oh… I think you wrote the essence of me into a song, there, Disney. ♥
“Forgiveness is the fragrance of the violet
which still clings fast to the heel that crushed it.”
~ George Roemisch
To be that violet was once my prayer. I learned a lot about forgiveness. Forgiving others, though, that part was always easier than forgiving myself. Learning to love myself, learning to forgive myself — that was the hard part, that was the lesson that took years and years of undoing all my preconceptions about perfection.
Somehow, in the flurry of constant business that is the reality of my existence as a resident at one of the busiest children’s hospitals in southern California, I’ve lost my propensity for quietness and reflection. Maybe a lot of my patience, too. Gone are the days where I’d spend hours sitting idle with my laptop, staring into a blank page until the words came. But oh, when the words would come I’d make sense of my thoughts and emotions and I’d make peace with myself and it was glorious and beautiful.
I miss that quietness, that time for reflection, the time to just be. I guess along the way I’ve learned to fill my time with things to do so I could feel like I was doing something with my life. Make no mistake, I love q-e-r-triple kill melting face with Lux’s laser (the one time I actually did pull that off was probably one of my happiest gaming moments ever, second to the 8v10 rated Warsong Gulch Greg & I somehow managed to carry). I love the overwhelming sense of accomplishment I get when I dare to wear in public something entirely ridiculous that I turned from a picture into reality (wearing my 90% complete Seramyu Eternal Sailormoon to Anime Expo and getting noticed and interviewed by Tristen Citrine, my costuming idol from my high school days? I thought I was gonna burst from all the feels). I enjoy singing & recording, and sometimes I even surprise myself, like the time I somehow managed to belt enough to do a decent enough rendition of Take me or Leave me from Rent. But the truth of the matter is that I spend far less time doing the things that I enjoy, and far less time reading up on my patients and doing PREP questions like I should be doing, than I spend aimlessly wandering the Internet and doing God-knows-what… waiting for life to happen? For fulfillment to find me?
I think I’ve lost my patience for stillness, for the time spent sitting here and wrestling with the words with which I form my thoughts and hopes and fears into something coherent and let it all out.
Three nights ago I came home late from my ED shift (3am, to be precise) and crawled into bed and downloaded a $2.99 eBook (A Year of Biblical Womanhood: How a Liberated Woman Found Herself Sitting on Her Roof, Covering Her Head, and Calling Her Husband “Master” by Rachel Held Evans). I took pseudoephedrine and dextromethorphan and guanfacine and read until 5am and then I slept until 11:30am and woke up and kept reading. It didn’t matter to me that I’d not really “accomplished” anything that day as I might otherwise have felt when I’d just spent my time staring at the Internet or the Worbla I’m too scared to shape because I don’t want to mess my Lux breastplate up again instead. I was still again; I was cuddled up in bed (pretty much a resident’s dream on a weekday morning), laughing and thinking and listening for God’s voice. It was good. Then my husband came through the door, home early from work. And then we frolicked in the brightness of a December afternoon as we held each other close and darling, so there you are with that look on your face. let me come to you, close as I want to be. close enough for me to hear your heart beating fast and stay there as I whisper how I love your peaceful eyes on me. did you ever know that I had mine on you?
The last time I was that free, that happy, that whole, was the time I’d come home from the worst heme-onc call of my life and slept from something like 3pm on Saturday until 11am on Sunday.
I want to reclaim that wonder, that stillness. I want to be that girl again, going through life with wide eyes and a heart full of love. I want to be, to sing my life, to weave words as I used to. This is my story, this is my song. May this year bring me the courage to be alive, the wisdom to read more (and do more PREP questions), the creativity to sing more and craft more, and the peace to be in the midst of the maelstrom that is residency and still be calm in my heart.